Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. It’s something many single people wonder, myself included. It's never easy to be rejected for any reason, but fat women get used to it in their interactions with men sadly because it seems to be more socially acceptable to express disgust with fat than it is express other complaints about a person's physical appearance. But while that's true, all of the fat women in my life have at least one story of men explaining to them that they could never date because of her fatness. None of us have a hard time getting dates, finding love, or sex, whatever it is we happen to be looking for.In our culture, people are taught, unfortunately, that being fat is bad. A fat person is just as worthy of love, respect, and kindness as any other person.I had more dates in a month in the US than I would in a decade in Australia. As a fat girl I never had dates while living in Australia – but as soon as I moved to Los Angeles everything changed. Guys literally chased me out of bars just to speak to me (one of those encounters even turned into a three year relationship.) I was single, ready to flamingle and life in Hollywood was amazing and everything you’d imagine. Which is why I packed up, sold everything, gave up my radio hosting job and moved to Los Angeles with nothing but a suitcase.My plus size blog Big Curvy Love was kicking along, I was working in podcasting, rocking fabulous fashion and for once in my life finally felt like a legit part of the deep end of the dating pool. I was exactly the same person; same personality, same looks, and same weight.
So, to find out if men like fat women, I created two identical online dating profiles of me size 18 and size 10 to find out.
I even launched my own 50 Fat Dates project as a way of documenting my experience in the plus size dating world. The only thing that was different was the location. My apartment was two blocks from the Hollywood Walk of Fame and was like living in a real-life Melrose Place situation.
The guy next door was a drag queen, another neighbour was a romance novelist/ science professor/female bodybuilder, the guy above me worked for movie studio, there was a photographer, bass guitarist, actor, luxury car salesperson and me. I was in the centre of the world’s biggest dream factory, but the reality was I was crafting my own dream through 50 Fat Dates.
I should point out that I’m an 18 at this point and happy to use the word fat because I find ‘plus size’ patronising and I mentally think of it as phat instead. I set up these profiles on free online dating site OKCupid.
As you can see, both are identical except for the photos and the fact one has ‘overweight’ as body type and the other has ‘thin’.
I've always wanted to know what goes on inside the heads of men who refuse to date a woman just because she is fat.